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Balance

 






The playground is every kid's favorite place. If you remember playing seesaw with friends, the idea was to get someone up, and then the person reciprocates the same experience. So, you guys go up and down... and up and down.

For that to be achieved one person's weight pulls the other and vice versa. I can't remember being at equilibrium with a friend or seeing that happen to some other person.


Balance is an even distribution of weight or a state of equilibrium or equipoise. This definition goes for biology, physical science, and physical fitness but not life. The misconception that this kind of balance attributed to life has resulted in unnecessary stress, burnout, and a lack of sustained growth.


To ever attain equilibrium at the seesaw, the kids would have to go in search of someone with their exact weight.

 Where's the fun in that? 

Maybe, only perfectionists will play the seesaw (lol)


Balance in life should sound more like this "life balance is giving proper priority and perspective to all aspects of your life to keep your life upright and steady".


Popular opinions state that we should seek balance, that everything in our life must be equally weighted at the same time. I've found that this never works. You probably have been striving for the wrong thing.


The different areas of our lives have to be catered for but in different seasons different areas of life hold more weight and some hold less.


We have to understand how to give priority to the different areas at different times.

This doesn't mean that all other aspects would be neglected, it only means that in exam season, studying would be more attended to than time with friends.


Let's use an imaginary pie chart to make this easier to grasp. Say, after an end-of-year evaluation Jade noticed that his finances suffered a setback. For Jade to bring back balance to his life, he sets to prioritize finances in the first month of the new year.

Remember in a pie chart, a complete circle is 100%. So Jade categorized all areas of his life to sum up to 100%, giving 35% focus to his finances in the first month and the remaining percentage shared on the other aspects of his life.

Notice that he didn't become negligent in the other areas, he only changed perspective at a particular time.


This is how 'balance' should look not some myth about maintaining complete harmony at the same time. It is okay to change priorities as the season changes. The ability to be conscious and intentional about what needs to be done at varying times is balance.


Here's a bounty: There are 'non-negotiables' that you should hold throughout the seasons. Define them

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